Matrimonial Woes...

Who in their right sense would try to find a spouse from a site that asks u to pay and register. Errr...how about everyone i know out here. Apart form those "lucky" ones doing/in a love marriage, most of us here r humiliated beyond extent. Maybe they even need to start a section called marriage-hunt-abuse like child abuse/marriage-abuse or whatever legal abuses exist in this planet. Imagine standing for those porn image like pictures u need to take to out up in that profile just so that the person at the other end along with his family just rip u inch by inch. Such a marvellous thing right! 

I dont know why I'm made to go through this torture of looking at random men in tamil matrimony. Although Tulu would say that I spent considerable amount of time in that site this saturday morning, it was just to...errr...pass time (pls, understand that everyone has their own crazy moment). I hate rejecting people because they dont look good/are short. But yes, I do. I think its just to prove my point that I'm a human :D I also hate it when the guys cant smile in their pictures. What does it take to smile? Bad teeth?? Or when they say things like "Have maintained excellent academic records throughout". I know this is close to being an interview, but NO I dont care how u "maintained" ur academic records.  How do u get that nerve to write stuffs like that, esp in something like a matrimonial profile?? And to think that my father sent that link to me. But, oh well! I cant blame him completely can I. I dont think he has the vaguest idea of getting me hitched with an illiterate. So, it might matter to him. But, yeah there r better ways to prove that u studied well. Like a two hundred thousand dollars for an annual income. That's how u prove MISTER!!!! 

For the past 6/7 odd months they r "looking" for guy for me as well. Oh, yes, u pity me dont u! I pity myself as well. I have reasoned one million times as to why i dont need to be married now, but yes evidently it was all thrashed and mocked and reasoned even better by my parents. So, i have agreed that sure, if so many people have been doing this, I can as well! (but do i want to...errr...lets leave that to later). So, lets go to the initial days when this stunt of "looking" started. I actually feared a situation like this, what if the guy comes along soon and im forced to marry!!! AAAAAAAHHHHHHH!!!! Evidently freaked out. But as time went by, and after talking to 2 odd people, i realized its nothing that happens within the blink of an eye-lid. Infact it might take the longest time. HURRAH! I dont have to be worried about anything. Except maybe accept the fact that appa wont let me pursue my higher education just as yet. But well, I dont have to marry, and thats a good sign. 

But, it comes with a price tag. I'm made to look at random men and I wonder if he's the one who'll eat the Sambhar i cook post 30 years as well. Ewww, what a thing to imagine.(Ok, kidding!! I have done that just, errr...couple of times). All these times, the process I follow, if i have to look at the person is, I read through the profile and slide my screen towards Tulu and get her feedback as well. Just to confirm my fear she'll be like. "welll .. NAAAAHHHH!!!"/ "WOAH! he's awesome" (and i'll nod my head vigorously)/ "hmm....he's atleast tall"/ "KAVI!!! this is an arranged marriage what do u expect!". I think it's time i accept her point. But wait, we r talking about life and living. Why would i want to live with the opposite pole person? Paul just told the other day that arrange-marriages happen just because men from the upper society/those who  r unbelivably/bearably bad couldnt find a girl for themselves. So they r sold based on their job credentials/dad's credentials. 


But thinking about Paul's point, I think Im the first person who needs this kind of match making. How else do they expect to see legal grand children???? So, i think i agree with nature's conspiracy